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“Lala is married, I am not” -Carmelo Anthony

These days, relationships seem to be as temporary as a snapchat story.

People get into relationships all smiles, showing off, posting  things that seem to make others want to be in a relationship and then comment with the hashtag that states #relationshipgoals­čśŹ. I will just sit over here and give the side eye. Yes it is that serious.

I had no hope for relationships after Angelina Jolie and Brad Pitt broke up. I mean how? Then T. I and Tiny, and other celebrities I know, Cynthia Bailey and Thomas. I mean lets be real, what happened to love like the TV couples back in the nineties, The Winslows, The Cosby’s, goodness knows how many tv families I grew up with. What kept them together? They sure had their own share of problems but they never split.

We live in a generation where love is selfish and almost non existent but seriously why was I born in this era, why not a few decades before so that I would have dated and married men who at least had common sense?

So early this week, I was greeted with the news that Lala And Melo split. I love Lala and I remember when she got married,  she was so happy and in love. Now is it me or basketball players just have the tendency to be unfaithful to their wives. Stephen Curry seems to be the only exception for now.

 Yes I said now.

Let’s take a look into the NBA circle where we have Dwane and Gabby Wade who had a similar problem, Dwane fathered a child outside and Gabby still married him, Kobe Bryant cheated and Vanessa is still into the marriage so many years later. Yesterday Kobe and Vanessa Bryant celebrated sixteen years of marriage. Who could have  thought they would survive the cheating episode? But guess what, they sure did, Kobe bought that million dollar ring. They worked through it.

Melo went to the Gentlemens club, he met a dancer, they hooked up and now she is pregnant, six months pregnant.  It is shameful in my own opinion. I learned that these basketball players tend to hoe around while they are on the road but for you to go out into town bareback is gross. ( I am hoping he wrapped it up and the condom broke) . But even when the condom breaks at least Melo would know, what happened to plan B? Goodness, I am asking all these questions that I can’t even answer because it is already six months too late to do anything. Also Lala already found out. Carmelo did not tell her, she found out. 

Did you hear what I said?

She found out!!!!!!

Lala is married, I am not”- Carmelo

This statement alone is painful. It is also thoughtless.

So is Melo simply saying that all the while he was not fully committed to being married to Lala?

Why didn’t he leave instead of running around town sticking his penis into holes and either uploading STDs or downloading babies?

If you are not happy leave

Don’t create scandals

The breakup would have be easier when both couples would sit down and conclude that it’s no longer working instead of creating tv drama to end the marriage

There is nothing more painful than having to deal with a spouse or partner who is not emotionally and physically in the relationship anymore. The beautiful memories would be marred with tears and regret.
Lala is a beautiful woman.  I believe she is better off without Carmelo. Let him go please. Next!!!!!!

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AN OPEN LETTER TO MY EX

It started with the phonecall, the voicemail, the text all in that order.

You got my contact info from a friend and the chase began

You checked on me on your breaks at work, you sent me text messages

We talked for hours, opened up to each other, shread secrets, joys, sadness

The list goes on, we became a part of each others lives

I accepted your burdens, your baggage, your past, your vulnerabilites, your insecurities but mine was a sight for sore eyes.

Only to wake up on a Friday morning to realize the whole thing was over.

I wanted you to realize that i wanted to be there for you like no other

I wanted to take care of you when you were ill

I wanted to grow with you

Then i realized maybe we didnt want the same things,

Maybe i was not worth hanging onto in time of difficulty

Maybe i was not the definition of the women you wanted to spend your lie with even when that was what you said. Actions speak louder than words,

The “maybes” are your problem not mine.

There is no need to hang around because you have picked another, and another

 

I chose to love you

I made the commitment to love you but you faltered

You looked for reasons to leave

I love myself

People love me unconditionally and i find comfort in that knowledge

I am worthy of someone who loves me wholly and completely

I am also worthy of getting unconditional love because it is something i am willing to give.

To anyone reading this, self love is utmost. You are the best thing that will ever happen to someone in your future and dont ever think for one second that you are not good enough.

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ON BECOMING-TOKE MAKINWA

 

 

Last week was abuzz with the release of a new book by Toke Makinwa a beautiful Nigerian OAP ( On Air Personality).

She is Nigeria’s sweetheart and she has managed to win the views of a lot of a people including myself with her Vlog where she tackles different topics including relationships

After reading her self penned book about her early life and also addressing her failed marriage, i was shocked, it actually takes a lot to sit down and write about something so personal like that, she talked about how she lost her parents tragically and also how she found love in the wrong place and still kept looking in the wrong place.

She gave people hope in her reassuring words in her Vlog, a form of confidence you cannot buy but instead her own personal life was falling apart, her home was slowly smoldering, she was false advertising, she had to keep a straight face which i actually applaud her for doing in the midst of making terrible choices and living with the choices until it almost destroyed her.

It is pretty short and straight to the point and i encourage you to read the book, there are a ton of lessons to be learned on here.

On Becoming