Happy Friday, its been such a busy week for me

I have finally finished reading “I am Judging You”

Here is my review.

Its the kind of book i would read slowly in the sense that she is not only judging you but also giving you her personal opinion about certain things in life.

Its divided into four parts

  1. Life
  2. Culture
  3. Social Media
  4. Fame

In life she talks about friends and different types of friendships, relationships when the have gone bad, and also how our judgement of a person quickly declines once we have had sex with them. Anal Bleaching is another intereting topic as well as skin bleaching.

“People you’ve known your entire life but haven’t seen in a year might show up looking like Casper the Friendly Ghost when they were previously the color of a Snickers bar and no one can address the pink,bleached elephant in the room” -Luvvie Ajayi.

She also talks about how people view weight in the society, personal hygiene is also on the list.

In Culture she talks about Racism, that is a topic that is pretty still obvious in modern day America

Racism is not always white hoods and burning crosses. It is behind teacher’s desks ans in principals’ offices.-Luvvie Ajayi.

She also talks about privilege ( i will let you read that yourself, it is very thought provoking). Also about how people think Africa is a country, still on the geography topic all day everyday, i am appalled to know that people still think that Africa is a country.

Do you have cars where you’re from? Do you wear clothes at home? Is there a lion in your backyard? Do you speak African? When did you learn to speak English? How did your hut fit your whole family? Who is the president of Africa? -Luvvie Ajayi.

She also speaks of rape culture and feminisim, homophobia and also religion.

In Social media, she talks about the use and abuse of hashtags,( i am an offender). Facebook Soap Operas for those who love their drama online, ebehaviors, success in business failure (using comic sans she says is an epic fail.) Lastly about how real G’s move in silence, keep things to themselves until plans are executed.

In Fame, she talks about how people feel they are a big deal on the internet, the ones who feel you have to know who they are, the brands, those who are quasi famous, it is a hilarious list especially as she describes each personality. Sex tapes and The Real World.

It is a twenty three chapter book which is comical as well as thought provoking. It deals with real life issues that we either talk about or are to scred to talk about sometimes.

I think you should read it I am Judging You


Last year on April 29th

I put up an open letter on the blog to my dear friend Berry Dakara about conception.

She talked about her inability to conceive on her Youtube Vlog and i responded.


Fast forward a few months later, the following year, i was sitting with Bobo( my then boyfriend) watching a movie when i got a Whatsapp Message and she told me she was expecting.

I am glad that faith works.

Just believe, its Monday and no matter how hard things are, no matter how bleak everything is always have hope. There is always sunshine after the story Nothing is impossible, dont ever let anyone tell you otherwise. Never allow ego plaay with your emotions. The Spirit brings peace of mind. Berry had almost given up until the weekend of her conception.

I can’t wait for #BabyCocoa to arrive this Summer.


Wohoo its 2017.

2016 was an amazing year for me and it ended on an excellent note

I got a new job, i bought a brand new car and i also got a brand new boyfriend…..

So 2017 started with all things new and i am so happy.

Its the darling month of January and all things are new and awesome.

I must confess i ate a lot of junk during Thanksgiving and the holidays and now its time to flush.

I am ashamed to say i also gained some weight back which i am ready to lose.

I am going to do a 21 day detox.

I did a 9 day detox last year.

How am i going to cope for 21 days

Easy. Just think about the amazing health benefits, losing weight, looking great and getting compliments from your friends and enemies likewise.



Here is the list of foods i would eat during my detox

1.Fruits and veggies

2. Steel cut oats

3. Boiled eggs

4. Black beans

5. Quinoa

6. Tofu

7. Greek Yogurt

8. Tuna

9. Chicken breasts

10. Sweet potatoes

11. Brown rice


No sugars, breads or red meat.

I will keep you posted on my progress.




Last week was abuzz with the release of a new book by Toke Makinwa a beautiful Nigerian OAP ( On Air Personality).

She is Nigeria’s sweetheart and she has managed to win the views of a lot of a people including myself with her Vlog where she tackles different topics including relationships

After reading her self penned book about her early life and also addressing her failed marriage, i was shocked, it actually takes a lot to sit down and write about something so personal like that, she talked about how she lost her parents tragically and also how she found love in the wrong place and still kept looking in the wrong place.

She gave people hope in her reassuring words in her Vlog, a form of confidence you cannot buy but instead her own personal life was falling apart, her home was slowly smoldering, she was false advertising, she had to keep a straight face which i actually applaud her for doing in the midst of making terrible choices and living with the choices until it almost destroyed her.

It is pretty short and straight to the point and i encourage you to read the book, there are a ton of lessons to be learned on here.

On Becoming


I am still on my weight loss program, once you establish a plan and go at it for twenty one days, it becomes a habit.

In the course of the detox, i ate a lot of fruit which not only helped me detox my liver, it kept me full, made my skin glow and i lost a pound everyday with little or no workout, just regular physical activity.

Here are the benefits of eating fruit

  1. I guarantee you , you will lose a pound everyday.
  2. It detoxifies your system
  3. You have clearer skin
  4. It will boost your metabolism, i noticed on the days i ate mostly fruit, i woke up energized and in a really good mood. I had a “fruitgasm”
  5.  Reduce your cholesterol
  6. Fruits aid digestion
  7. Prevents certain cancers
  8.  Prevents infections by helping to build resistance
  9. Improves heart health

It is a good thing to add some fruit to your diet, watermelon is great to help lose weight, it is full of water and has about forty six calories, eve if you eat twenty water melons, it is less than breakfast, morning and evening calories put together.

If you have bad cholesterol, try to do a fruit fast, eat mostly fruit for two weeks and go back for your blood work, you will see a huge difference.

Eat fruit.

What do you have to lose?




Hello darling…

We haven’t met yet or probably we have but you are playing.

We are going to be lovers and friends forever.

I am going to love you forever

I am not perfect but I am awesome

I am your confidant, counsellor and chef.

Your secrets are safe with me

I will correct you and not judge you and your meals will be sizzling and delicious

I am your ride or die chick

I promise to always be there for you

I promise to respect you and show you unconditional love

Once in a while I may get mad at you,wait till the fuse blows out and I am back in business

I want to have gorgeous babies with you

I want to raise awesome kids with you, loving ,caring and ambitious children. 

Let’s teach the children to respect people, to appreciate money and to love life.

I want to begin awesome projects and finish them

Lets travel the world and build memories not just pictures

Let’s share a faith and believe in a higher being and also teach our children that.

I don’t know where the road in our marriage will lead to, what paths, the highs, the lows but as partners let’s share it together, through health, through wealth, we don’t want to be sick neither do we want to be poor so let’s work towards being healthy and being content with our earnings and probably a little more

When we start getting an old and gray, all we would have is each other so by then let’s sit in our rocking chairs every morning with a cup of tea and laugh, laugh at our beautiful lives with or without our teeth when we are in our nineties.

Let’s do forever together


28 day transformation

Its been almost a month since i started my weight loss journey  and i have lost 10lbs.  I followed the book Fat Smash Diet by Ian Smith to the tee.

The first week was detox week. You have to cleanse your liver to lose weight so i had to get rid of bread and soda. My guilty pleasures. I replaced it with watermelon, oranges, apples and grapes. I also became an oatmeal and sweet potato freak. I also tried Greek Yogurt. My latest addition was tofu. A lot of people don’t like tofu  because it has no taste but it is really good. the thing with tofu is that it tastes like whatever you cook it with

I worked out, walked 3 miles or biked 5 miles about three times a week.

Phase two  came in a week later  and then i added chicken, shrimp and lean beef back into my diet. I ate beef sparingly.

I found my old kinect cd’s like The Biggest Loser with Jillian Michael , Kinect AdventuresYour Shape Fitness Evolved  Dance Central and began to use them to work out or just burn calories. It is good to have fun while losing weight

The Fitbit Charge HR Wireless Activity Wristband is my new best tracks my calories how much i eat and burn, how many stairs i climb, i also have challenges with my friends who also have fitbits, my favorite challenges  are Weekend Warrior and Workweek hustle. Our fitbits track our steps and the one with the most steps walked wins.I love this lifestyle.  I hope to lose more weight and tone but right now my eating choices are superb. I feel lighter  too.