Sometimes, one needs to reflect back on their life to see why they keep meeting trashy people,i would always say making “rubbish friends“. These are the type of people that don’t bring “peace of mind.” Apart from that you become those people.
You realize you are such a great person but you keep feeling remorseful over the type of friends you have been making and probably keeping. Certain types of drama keeps recurring.
Let’s figure out what is going on.
Trashy people have a tendency to be toxic and such people love being friends with people who cannot say “no” to other people, they always feel the need to please people. The need to be relevant among their friends and family members would always keep you running into trashy people. The idea of being relevant is more detrimental to you rather than the trash that you attract.
For instance, you have to be at work by 6 am on Saturday morning, you know for a fact that at midnight, you need to be in bed but you decide to kick it with your “cool” friends so as not to offend them and you end up getting home at 3 am and sleeping with one eye open, waking up at 5am and chugging a cup of Starbucks to work at 6 am and being partially productive for the eight hour shift. This means you have no boundaries.
If you always have a boundary problem, you will keep attracting toxic people. Once you are able to tell your friend no, or refuse to oblige, then you fall out of favor with the person, it’s a good thing, they need to go but most importantly you need to draw up boundaries. Self discipline is priceless.
Learn to say “No”. You wont die.
You would lose people who are truly not meant to be in your life.
Loyalty is also a major factor. It is very important to figure out who you want to be loyal to.
Does your loyalty come with a price?
Would your loyalty be reciprocated?
Can you call on such a person when you need them?
If you answer “no” to more than one of these questions, then you need to check what and who you are loyal to and why you are loyal to them?
Guilt trips are also used by trashy people to make you feel bad so that they can get you to do what you want.
Sometimes you cannot make an event they invite you to or cannot help them babysit their child or borrow them the money they need because it will also inconvenience you, they put you on a guilt trip and then you instantly feel bad and then ultimately change your mind so as not to offend them.
I am telling you now please “OFFEND THEM” if it will cost you, your peace of mind and comfort, do it.
Trashy people also love insecure people, people who don’t know their worth, they could be beautiful, gifted, talented and still feel worthless, a trashy person will out of jealousy want to stay close to the person in order to control them and ultimately destroy them.
Do you see yourself as any of the above mentioned people?
Then it means you have tendencies of attracting trash. You need to re evaluate yourself.`